Success is a double-edged sword. It produces great things. But it also exacerbates busyness and over stimulation. The pressures and demands increase dramatically with success. And the proverbial “burning the candles at both ends” becomes more and more a reality with painful consequences. What have many successful people learned to do about this?
There's Power in a Creative Pause
This week I was pointed to an online article called "What Happened To Downtime? The Extinction Of Deep Thinking And Sacred Space." The author is Scott Belsky, CEO of Behance and author of the national bestselling book Making Ideas Happen. He's speaking a very prophetic word to our contemporary culture. Dangers of Living in a Digital Age
Living in a digital-age where we are connected 24/7 through our technologies, the experience of interruption-free space is almost nonexistent. Even airlines these days are beginning to offer mobile and digital connectivity on flights, that last bastion of forced, no-guilt relaxation opportunity.
But this constant plugged-in existence is doing great damage to our souls and imaginations.
"Despite the incredible power and potential of sacred spaces, they are quickly becoming extinct. We are depriving ourselves of every opportunity for disconnection. And our imaginations suffer the consequences."
Creating Creative Pauses
What this means is that we have to be especially intentional about carving out what Belsky calls "the creative pause"--learning to savor downtime which is one of the most effective ways to enhance our imagination for life. We have to be willing to shape times when we unplug and disconnect in order to plug in and connect to to a whole different Spirit.
The ancient Jews called this sacred experience Sabbath. It was intentional, weekly sacred space carved out for the purpose of plugging in to the Divine Life in a renewed and revitalized way. It was a tool to remind them of their spiritual identity as children of God--"We are not simply consumers and producers (brickmakers for the Pharoah and rulers of worldly empires). We are children of the God of Heaven who calls us His own and gifts us with love, compassion, and goodness--not for what we do but simply for who we are."
Benefits of Uninterrupted Sacred Space
There is tremendous power in this kind of creative pause and uninterrupted sacred space. Notice the way eminent Jewish philosopher and theologian Abraham Joshua Heschel describes it:
“In the tempestuous ocean of time and toil there are islands of stillness where man may enter a harbor and reclaim his dignity. The island is the Sabbath, a day of detachment from things, instruments and practical affairs, as well as attachment to the spirit . . . The Sabbath is the exodus from tension, the liberation of man from his own muddiness, the installation of man as a sovereign in the world of time.”
Notice all the words that describe benefits from observing sabbath: reclaiming dignity, deeper attachment to the true spirit of life, exodus from tension, liberation from identity confusion, restoring a sense of sovereignty over your time instead of being a victim to time. Who among us wouldn't want these experiences?
I truly believe that one of the great spiritual practices for our contemporary culture is this intentional choice to savor downtime, to establish a creative pause, to carve out sacred space, to learn the art of sabbathing our time--to use these sacred moments to remind ourselves of our deepest core identity as interconnected human beings, sovereign children of God, loved and valued not for what we do for but for who we are.
My Wednesday Night Speaking Series
This is one of the reasons I have planned this public speaking event for Wednesday nights, right smack dab in the middle of our busy, frenetic weeks. It's an opportunity to step into a creative pause and sacred space to enhance the depth of our lives as we reconnect with the Spirit. We need regular appointments like this because we all know the powerful benefits of regularity. You don't eat a meal only once, saying to yourself that since you've just eaten and you feel full that must be enough. You eat again and again, with regularity, in order to sustain your life.
If you aren't living close enough to San Francisco to get in on these Wednesday night events but would still like to set aside a creative pause to view them, the videos will be made available soon. I'll be happy to let you know when and how to access them. Email me (greg@flyagaincoaching.com). Here's the information about the series. Check it out.
Your Intentional Choice
Let's face it: we live in a world where we're confronted with the sometimes overwhelming temptation to stay connected and plugged in to our technologies and communities 24/7. Little by little, the life in our souls is seeping out through over-stimulation and nonstop activity. We're paying a very high price.
Belsky challenges us: "Soon enough, planes, trains, subways, and, yes, showers will offer the option of staying connected. Knowing that we cannot rely on spaces that force us to unplug to survive much longer, we must be proactive in creating these spaces for ourselves. And when we have a precious opportunity to NOT be connected, we should develop the capacity to use it and protect it."
This is definitely a word to the wise for our generation. How will you go about sabbathing your life? What intentionality will you choose to manifest to experience sacred space and downtime? Why not enjoy the profound life power in a creative pause.
My Offer To You
One of the things I do is coach people on how to develop this kind of deeply personal, meaningful spiritual path. I have a 7 Day Curriculum called "How To Breathe More Soul Into Your Life"--it's all about developing specific intentional ways to experience the benefits of daily sabbathing your week. People have found this to be very transformational in establishing regularity to the spiritual habit/practice. Over a four week process (in four customized phone calls), I help unpack this experience, provide daily assignments, and help bring support and encouraging accountability to this personalized journey.
I'm willing to give a 10% discount to my blog readers for this coaching experience which begins Monday, Nov 7. Contact me in the next 5 days (by Oct. 26) to take advantage of this discount. Email me for the details (greg@flyagaincoaching.com).
Developing A Faith That Works, 3: Two Metaphors
[Please SHARE this blog with people who might be interested! Hit the button on the right to subscribe or to share the post] We're talking about faith and the different meanings attached to that word. We've discovered that faith is more than just a matter of the head - what you believe about God and life - notional propositions. Faith is a matter of the heart. And there are three words for faith used to describe this picture. The first word is "fiducia" which means "trust, confidence." See my blog entry about that word. Now we're dealing with the second word for FAITH, "fidelitas" - which literally means fidelity, allegiance, loyalty, faithfulness. How does this word define "faith" as a part of the spiritual journey? What nuances does this word "fidelity" suggest about the faith life? Scripture uses two intriguing and very personal metaphors to describe the faith experience. These metaphors provide a glimpse into what genuine faith is not. The first is adultery and the second is idolatry. Let's consider these a bit.
Fidelity vs. Spiritual Adultery
Here's the way one author describes this metaphor: “When the Bible speaks about adultery, most often it is not speaking about human sexual relationships. Sometimes it is, as in the Ten Commandments and in some other passages. But when the prophets indict the chosen nation of Israel as adulterous or Jesus speaks of ‘an evil and adulterous generation,’ they are not saying that there is a lot of spouse swapping going on. Rather, they are referring to unfaithfulness to God and God’s covenant [which involves their personal and corporate calling and identity].” (Marcus Borg, The Heart of Christianity)
So what does this say about faith? Let's unpack the metaphor. I have a bit of credibility with this since I can speak from a very painful personal experience. But the lessons I've learned are hugely significant to life and spirituality. I can understand more clearly and deeply why scripture uses this metaphor to talk about the spiritual journey.
What is the nature of adultery? At its simplest, adultery is a loss of loyalty and faithfulness to a covenant. Right? It’s a shift in loyalty, steadfastness, and allegiance from one person to another. Sometimes it’s very subtle and invisible. Adultery in a relationship happens long before the bed is involved. Small shifts in attraction or connection. And with every shift to another, there’s an equal shift away from the other. So adultery isn’t simply something a person does in a new relationship, it’s also something that person isn’t doing in the covenanted relationship – and usually that shift comes first.
So adultery in scripture is referring to unfaithfulness to the covenant between the people and their God. What would the Hebrew prophets be referring to by using this metaphor – how were the people unfaithful to the covenant? What were subtle shifts taking place in their attention and commitment to the God of their covenant? What were things they stopped doing in that covenant that led them to shift allegiances? Significantly, often in the context of this accusation is a reference to the people’s refusal to honor the poor, widows, orphaned, and marginalized among them – a neglect of taking care of those in need – they were dishonest in their financial dealings, they robbed people by charging interest – the religious bureaucracy would enforce their own views of religion and God on the people, setting up impossible rules esp. for the poor and economically disadvantaged, portraying God as a vengeful Judge. Their role was suppose to be to represent the truth about God by how they treated each other. And yet they built a very exclusive community and religion, considering other people less than themselves.
So when Jesus came along and made the profound declaration, "If you've done it to the least of these people (the poor, orphaned, hungry, captives), you've done it to me," the fact that they were not taking care of these disadvantaged among them meant that they were not being loyal to God. And that shift away from the needy was a shift away from God. Which led to shifts in loyalty to other gods (we'll see this in the next metaphor). All of this was called by the prophets spiritual adultery – unfaithfulness to God and the covenant with God. Here's a classic passage from one of the Hebrew prophets about this (Jeremiah 7):
7 “How can I pardon you? For even your children have turned from me. They have sworn by gods that are not gods at all! I fed my people until they were full. But they thanked me by committing adultery and lining up at the brothels …
23 But my people have stubborn and rebellious hearts. They have turned away and abandoned me.
28 They refuse to provide justice to orphans and deny the rights of the poor.
31 the prophets give false prophecies, and the priests rule with an iron hand. Worse yet, my people like it that way!"
Notice the powerful emotional shift the people are experiencing away from God - the last line: "My people like it that way!" The allegiance has completely turned, a new loyalty has been formed away from God - they actually like "the other" better. And it's being revealed by how they live their lives with the disadvantaged and needy among them. They no longer value what their God values.
So faith as loyalty, fidelity, and faithfulness to God (in the context of this metaphor of adultery) involves keeping focus on God, not allowing shifts in devotion and loyalty away from God; it involves paying attention to what God pays attention to; centering one’s self on God’s intent for life; being true to our calling and purpose and God-given identity; valuing what God values by living in alignment with the highest values of life. Placing your heart on God by placing your heart on what God places the divine heart. Which leads to the second metaphor.
Fidelity vs. idolatry
Here's an interesting take on the meaning of "idolatry" in the context of our faith journey. I came across a fascinating connection with fidelity in the electronic and technology world. Here's the definition:
“FIDELITY is the degree to which the output of a system accurately reproduces the essential characteristics of its input signal. Thus, high fidelity in a sound system means that the reproduced sound is virtually indistinguishable from that picked up by the microphones in the recording or broadcasting studio. Similarly, a television system has a high fidelity when the picture seen on the screen of a receiver corresponds in essential respects to that picked up by the television camera. Fidelity is achieved by designing each part of a system to have minimum distortion, so that the waveform of the signal is unchanged as it travels through the system.” (Sci-Tech Encyclopedia)
So the concept of fidelity in electronics is about achieving a pure alignment and congruency between the input signal and the output signal. What comes in is what goes out.
What does this say about faith as fidelity?
Scripture also uses the metaphor of idolatry to describe the opposite of fidelity in faith. So using the above illustration of fidelity from the electronic world, idolatry would then be a lack of alignment or congruency between the input and output of our lives. In other words, we’re not being true to ourselves, to the divine image in us, which is another way of saying we’re not being true to God and God’s purpose/design for us. We have allowed a disconnect to exist. Idolatry is incongruence – a shift in our allegiance from who God made us to be to who we think we're suppose to be (perhaps someone else's image of us or who they think we should be). Either way, we’re “worshiping other gods” by not being ourselves.
So what is fidelity in this case? A willingness to be a transparent and unobstructed channel through which the Divine Spirit flows. Letting God’s Spirit continue creating the divine image in us so that we manifest God’s love and goodness in clearer and clearer ways. And the divine flow through us is always manifested most accurately and powerfully when we're living in alignment with who we are, our true identity, our God-given purpose.
Here's the point: When we allow and discipline ourselves to focus on these qualities we are placing ourselves in direct connection with God’s Spirit and we become transformed – the disconnect between the source of the input and our output is removed. We become congruent with God. THAT’S THE PROCESS OF FIDELITY. It's a deliberate and intentional choice to be in harmony with God - to allow the heart of God to shape our heart, to value what God values, to live in alignment with the divine passion to show compassion, care, support, and loving action toward ourselves, others, and the world - and to all of this in our own unique, special, and God-designed way.
Jesus made this point when he summarized the entire Hebrew scriptures (what Christians often refer to as the Old Testament): love God with all your heart, mind, soul and body, and love your neighbor as yourself; on these two commandments rests the entire law of God.
Idolatry (the opposite of fidelity) is about allowing our hearts, our attention, our values to shift away from God and what God values to other interests - when we try to live someone else's life instead of being who God made each of us to be - when we become preoccupied with ourselves to the exclusion of caring for others - when our egos take control and we become unable to live beyond ourselves in self-forgetfulness and compassion - when we become obsessed with fear, anxiety, insecurity in our relationship with God and the world. Interesting picture of idolatry, isn't it!
God's Fidelity and Faithfulness
In the end, what is it that empowers us toward fidelity and faithfulness? Sacred scriptures make clear that our loyalty and faithfulness with God are radically empowered by a recognition and embracing of the central core truth of the divine nature: God’s unconditional compassion and faithfulness. One of the great theologians, Paul Tillich, defined faith as “the courage to accept acceptance.” Imagine what your confidence level in living life would be like if you lived from the truth of your complete and unconditional acceptance - if you truly knew your self and uncategorically accepted your self the way God accepts you!
Fidelity is not about never sinning, never being selfish and self-centered, always doing everything perfectly and never failing. Fidelity is about faithfulness to the journey. Staying on the journey with Life, with God. Having the courage to accept God’s acceptance so that we give it gently and patiently to ourselves and to others. Fidelity is about staying on the journey!
And what is the most powerful motivation for us to keep on keeping on is the central truth of scripture: God’s faithfulness (even in the midst of our unfaithfulness). Here’s how one of the Hebrew prophets put it in the context of one of the most beautiful love stories in scripture. God reaffirming his commitment to his people after they have been so unfaithful to him. Listen to a piece of this powerful poem from Hosea 2:
14 “But then I will win her back once again. I will lead her into the desert and speak tenderly to her there. 15 I will return her vineyards to her and transform the Valley of Trouble into a gateway of hope. She will give herself to me there, as she did long ago when she was young, when I freed her from her captivity in Egypt.
16 When that day comes,” says the Lord, “you will call me ‘my husband’ instead of ‘my master.
17 O Israel, I will wipe the many names of Baal from your lips, and you will never mention them again.
18 On that day I will make a covenant with all the wild animals and the birds of the sky and the animals that scurry along the ground so they will not harm you. I will remove all weapons of war from the land, all swords and bows, so you can live unafraid in peace and safety.
19 I will make you my wife forever, showing you righteousness and justice, unfailing love and compassion.
20 I will be faithful to you and make you mine, and you will finally know me as the Lord.” (Hosea 2)
I know this faithfulness personally! What has kept me going with boldness and courage and persistence, even through the darkness of my own failures and stumbles, is experiencing in the very core of my self that commitment and loyalty God has for me. It continues to transform and empower my life! Faith is about staying on the journey with a faithful God.
Here's my prayer: “God reminds me, no matter what I’ve done, whether great or ungreat, successful or unsuccessful – my faithlessness to God or anyone else doesn’t negate God’s faithfulness to me! God is committed to me forever, no matter what! So I will live in this truth! Embrace it! Let it melt my heart and fill it with hope and courage and relentless trust! God believes in me, period! And with this loyalty together, we will go on to change the world! Amen.”
Stay tuned for word three for faith in my next blog. Thanks for staying on this journey of exploration about faith.